2020致自己的一封信6篇 写给某某的信英语（推荐20篇）

老公：

你数日不在家中，没有你温情的拥抱和耳边熟悉的气息，实在难以入眠。思念之余，夜深人静使我头脑也分外的清静，于是多为你想了一些事情。

因为爱一个人，会因他的幸福而幸福，也因他的忧伤而忧伤。我是见不得你半点失意的样子的，我会心痛。所以今天作为一个妻子，一个旁观者，向你“唠叨”几句，希望你在闲暇之时，听听这善意的“唠叨”，对你也许能有一点点的启示。

我们相互厮守也有几个年头了，或多或少彼此间都会有一些了解。可能有一些想法带着主观意念，比较偏极一些，但我还是希望你能把它看完了，也算是“读懂”了一个妻子的心了。

有些时候，我真的很为你担心，但你不喜欢听人“唠叨”，所以我们在家从未无话不谈地唠过家常。如今你可谓是春风得意，意气风发。然而，脚下的路还很漫长，走好这条路关键还得靠自己，这就取决于一个人的优秀品德和良好的性格了。你的性格有好的一面，也有坏的一面，好在你性格开朗，不拘小节，为人实在，广交朋友，容易赢得朋友的信赖，而且你有聪明的头脑，你有能力，但才智欠缺，这才智就源于你的业务水平、知识积累程度如何;坏的一面就显露在你有一点点成绩就沾沾自喜，而且好夸大其词，给人一种轻浮的感觉。深沉的领导是不喜欢轻浮的下属的，还有就是你好高骛远，自作聪明，好像世界上没有你不知道的事情，这样在树立威信方面你就会失去拥护者。如果以我的眼光，我喜欢你那种自信与洒脱，然而在别人特别是居心叵测人的眼中，就会成为攻击你的目标。所以尽量收敛自己的凤毛麟角，留待工作中实干中去使用。

作为一个农民的儿子，就该有种农民的质朴与敦厚。农民是伟大的，绝不能因自己是农民的儿子而有丝毫的自卑感。农民特有的那份质朴是可爱的更是美好的，所以要拥有一颗贫富之心，即保持一颗清静之心态，不被物质所迷惑，对事还必须不期望过高，对未来不做悲观猜想，也就是快乐的时候不自得;失意的时候不悲观绝望。如此才能称之为得到了驾驭生活的智慧。此外，还要有一颗幸福之心，所谓幸福是属心灵之物。物质的追求固然重要，然而它归属于心灵的东西实在太少。过于强调金钱物质的满足，只会导致自己成为金钱的奴隶，物质的奴隶，从而失去真正的自我。只有正直、真爱、善良的人才能得到感情上的回报，才是真正幸福的源泉，这是从古至今人们用血泪写出的真理啊。所以要有一颗正直、善良的心，更要有一颗爱自己家庭的心。一个不爱自己家庭的人，谈何爱单位，爱事业，爱国家?即使高官厚禄，也只会成为一个享受型的贪官。古人云：一屋不扫，何以扫天下，是一个道理的。一个对妻子、对儿女、对家庭真心付出感情的人，永远不会空虚、寂寞的。

你年轻，年轻就是资本，为什么不乘现在多学一点东西，来丰富自己的才智呢?你有学历，有智慧，一份报告信手拈来可不费吹灰之力，这不是凭空臆想的，这需要精通业务，阅读积累大量的资料的结果。

走好自己的路很重要，走正每一步更加重要。这是一切事物成功的基础。“一失足成千古恨!”这不是一句戏言。千万不要以身试法，有些“玩笑”是永远都开不得的。这个世界对男人有太多的诱惑，因为这些诱惑的魅力之大，使得社会上出现了许多贪官污吏。这其中不乏女色的诱惑。一时的感觉可能很美好，却怎能去拿一世的伟业与英名来交换呢?陷井总是被鲜花所覆盖，千万要看清哪是陷井哪是坦途啊!说到这，你可能会不以为然地说一声：“谁不知道你那点小心眼!”然而衡量一下利弊，你会发现，做为一个妻子计较丈夫的行为何止是那一点点的私心啊，她更注重的是丈夫的前程。她不会看着自己的丈夫往陷井里跳而不声不响，这是任何人所不能取代的角色。这是“妻子”这两个字付予一个女人的高尚情操。失去一个家庭是一个女人的悲哀，更是一个男人莫大的悲哀呀!就像战场上失去了后方支援的根据地，孤军奋战只会注定失败。所以每个家庭的女人都为自己的丈夫，含心茹苦地支撑着一个家，尽管有时丈夫并不领情，但是女人仍苦苦地经营着这个家，为的是在丈夫身心疲惫的时候能有一个温暖的港湾让他歇歇，这是妻子的伟大之处。

这是我，一个平凡女子的一点点想法，我是一个一事无成的人，在工作上、财力上不能给丈夫更多的支持，我想这种支持对于自己的丈夫也并没有太大的实用性，我虽空怀大志，却只能安于现状，为这个家，我不再计较个人的得失，只求家庭和睦，家人健康，我也心满意足了。为此，我将一腔的爱都倾注在丈夫、孩子和家庭上。然而无论到什么时候，我仍是一个独立的我。纵使有一天丈夫飞煌腾达，我仍旧还是现在的我，我会冷静地面对你的得与失。就像你现在小有成绩，我并没有为此而激动，因为你的发展不止于此，纵使以后你得以高官，我也不会以某某夫人的身份自居，我会为你高兴，为你祝福，但我不会扬扬自得，因为我要保持一颗平常之心，做你生活中的清凉油。

只要你一天不嫌弃我，我就跟你一天，你给我富贵荣华，我会坦然接受，你给我贫穷我也泰然处之!

这是我——一个妻子的心灵告白。

爱你的妻子

Dear Sir,

I am a graduate in 2012, graduating from Southwestern University of Finance and Economics. I was noticed your company is looking for a CFO and I am writing to candidate for this position. I was major in financial management in college and minor in Business. I studied very hard in school and I was perfect in my courses. I ranked top three in my college. Moreover, I took part-time jobs in summer holidays and I had an internship in a company before, which brought me great practical experience. I know your company aims to internationalization and I am sure what I learned in school would help me to be qualified to this position. The following is my resume in details that will help you to know me better. I’m looking forward to your positive reply. And Best wishes for you and your company.

Sincerely yours,

Christ

Dear teacher,

Hello!

In our life, since childhood, we have received the educational grace of our parents, now, we are receiving the educational grace of our teachers.

Teachers, hard gardener, all the time for our sake, and you are one of them. You and other teachers, three feet of the podium, a piece of chalk, do not know how much knowledge for us to write down. Chalk foam dyed your hair white, winter to spring, you in this small platform, do not know how many students.

I remember when I was just in junior high school, you led our class to teach us Chinese, but our classs Chinese score was not good, so I was afraid of Chinese class. Every class, I will be a person silently hiding in the corner. A few days later, you spotted me and called me to your office. At this point, the school is over and you are the only one left in the office. You kindly said to me: "my child, learning is an essential part of the way of life. It is by studying that you can acquire knowledge. But knowledge has the power to change everything. You must study if you want to grow up and get out of this backward village. And Chinese, is our mother tongue, is our root. We are all descendants of the Chinese people and should carry forward our mother tongue." I hung my head in shame. "Chinese is an essential part of learning. In fact, Chinese is not difficult to learn, as long as you carefully observe everything around you, usually pay more attention to accumulation, you will improve: you go back to think about it. Say that finish, let me hurry home.

As I trudged out of the office, I looked through the window and saw that you were still correcting our homework. The red marks on the exercise book all show your diligence and hard work. Since then, I will study hard Chinese, carefully observe the things around me, listen carefully in class. When you saw this, you finally smiled. This smile, like the sun, warms me and makes me work harder.

You are no longer teaching me, but you have taught me the most profound lesson. I will never forget you. I will never forget your back as you corrected your homework under the light. I will never forget the time when we studied together, the help you gave me.

Teacher, it is you who taught me Thanksgiving and taught me knowledge. I will always grow up with a grateful heart.

Wish: good luck in everything and good health.

There was once a Piers family, and the father of the group divided his

son’s equally between them for homes.

The greedy son named Cassim, married a rich wife and of course got rich

himself. The other one, named Ali Baba, was not half of greedy as he was, and

married a poor wife and remained as poor as usual.

One day Ali Baba went to town where he knew was a wood in the end; he

brought with him three mules and an axe to load wood. Ali Baba only finished

loading half his mules with wood, when he heard a thumping sound coming from not

far away; he thought it was in the fields.

As they came nearer and nearer, Ali Baba began to feel more like they were

robbers. So he decided to leave his mules and save himself, and he climbed up a

tree nearby, and waited until the robbers went away.

Ali Baba was patient, and waited for the robbers to go away; after the

robbers tied their horses to the fence in town, they came under the tree which

Ali Baba had left his mules; he found the robbers approaching a big rock, and

found the captain of the leaders standing in the front of the big rock. And then

pronounced the words, “Open sesame!” the mouth of the cave immediately opened

wide, and the robbers went inside; the captain went in last. After a few minutes

Ali Baba found the robbers coming out with bags in their hands, since the

captain of the robbers went in last he came out first that is for sure! And then

the captain of the robbers stood at the mouth of the cave again, and pronounced

the words, “Close sesame!” and the door immediately closed shut very tightly.

And then robbers hopped on their horses, and galloped away through the

fields.

Ali Baba stared at them for a long time until he couldn’t see them.

And so Ali Baba got down from the tree, and went to the big rock. And as he

knew the words, he pronounced, “Open sesame!” the door immediately opened. Then

he went inside. To Ali Baba’s surprise, he found a golden chamber, and in it was

gold and diamonds of all kinds! Ali Baba couldn’t even believe his luck!

My hobby is lisetening to music.I like listening to music best.Because

listening to music makes me relaxed.When I am tired,I will listening some quiet

music,that makes me fall asleep very quickly.My favorite music is the music that

has good lyrics.Good lyrics can also make me learn Chinese or English well.

I love listening to music.I will keep this hobby forever.

我的爱好是听音乐。

我最喜欢听音乐，因为听音乐使我很放松，当我累了，我会听一些安静的音乐，这让我很快睡着。我喜欢的音乐是具有优美的歌词。优美的歌词也可以在音乐让我学习中国或不好英语，我喜欢听音乐.我将保持这个爱好，直到永远。

I like eating meat so much and I am so picky about food. My parents always

worry about my diet, and they try to let me eat vegetables and fruits. But I

only can have a little. But after my mom learns to make food with all kinds of

cartoon pictures, I start to have a lot of food and don’t picky anymore.

There are 3 people in my family.They are my father,my mother and me.My

father is a policeman.My mother is a housewife.I am a student in _x School.My

favorite subject is English,because I think it is very interesting.I like my

family very much.

Dear Ms. Reinhart,

I am terribly sorry that I failed to arrive at BLCU last Friday. I hope

that this did not mess you up completely, although I know that you had already

made some special arrangements for my visit with you parents and friends. I am

very sorry about all that. I am sure you will be sympathetic, however, when I

tell you that my father is dangerously ill in hospital, and that I found it

impossible to leave for the visit when he is in this state.

My father was working very hard on his project on protecting the

environment. I know the project has come to a very important stage. He and his

assistants did not take regular rest for three weeks. Last night, my father had

a heart attack and was soon sent to the hospital. The doctor said my father was

in a very serious situation, and, he might need an operation.

24 hours have passed. Nothing has changed. I have to stay at the hospital.

I will let you know if there is any good news.

I am sorry again and look forward to seeing you soon.

Yours sincerely,

Tom Williams

DearMs. Fu,

亲爱的付老师，

Iwould like you to know that I appreciate the help and support you gave to mewhen I was in junior high school. I enjoyed being taught by you immensely. Youare an excellent teacher and inspired me to continue learning with an open andpositive mind.

我想让您知道我非常感激在我上初中的时候你给予的帮助和支持。我非常喜欢你做我的老师。你是一个优秀的教师，鼓励我以开放和积极的态度继续学习。

Iwould like to convey my heartfelt gratitude to you for teaching me what is responsibility. You helped me how to find the best place for myself and look forthe personal values. I remember you gave me a book as a present of the SpringFestival. You are the first teacher who gave me a present which I was moved fora long time.

我衷心的感谢你教会了我什么是责任。你帮我找到最适合自己的位置并和个人价值。我记得你曾给我一本书作为春节的礼物。你是第一个给我礼物的老师，这让我感动了很久。

Iwould further say that you gave me so good memories that I wish I could go backto that time again. It was you who encouraged me to overcome obstacles. It wasyou who cared about my emotions. I appreciate all you have done for me, whichmeant so much to me. I hope that this letter brings my best wishes to you and Ionce again thank you for giving me those precious memories of my life, which Ishall cherish forever.

我还想说你给了我这么美好的回忆，我希望我能再次回到那个时候。是你鼓励我克服困难。是你关心我的情绪。我很感激你为我所做的一切，这对我来说是很重要的。我希望这封信能给你带去我最好的祝福，我再次感谢你给我的生活带来那些珍贵的回忆，我会永远珍惜它的。

Sincerely yours,

Yang

杨

Dear baby,

How time flies, three years of junior high school has come a nearly five 6, more want to let time stop, so we can each other with some more, but this is impossible, time will pass, you will grow big, Im lucky from September 1, 2012 to June 26, 2014, are there your company in the period of time, whether your scores are good or medium or some unsatisfactory, teachers believe that the future you will be able to harvest your own future.

Baby, we together of the time, because the teacher sometimes bad temper, also because of the high expectations of teachers for you, to you hair temper, sometimes may say bad words, perhaps you still dont understand to the teacher at the time, but I believe that our heart is always close to each other, because you are the teacher heart the good child. Thank you for your understanding of the teacher!

Baby, every time together time is so unforgettable, forget my birthday when the song full of affection "father", and a full face of cream; I cant forget singing all the way to Beijing, and singing with shame on the platform after school; Forget when running total also cant run, and turn a neat pace. The teachers happy memories haunt me little by little.

Maybe you are not very expressive sometimes, but you can read your trust in your teacher from your attentive eyes. If youre having a hard time academically and youre not doing well academically, remember that "nothing will make me give up" is enough! If you are not outstanding enough, than insufficient, than the next surplus, the teacher gave you such a sentence: "try your best, miracle will be created by you." If your study is better, the teacher also send you a sentence: "the day will be down on the man also, must first suffer its spirit, labor its bones and muscles, starve its body skin, empty its body, line brush its work". These wise words of Mencius have quite a warning and encouraging effect to everyone. As excellent students in study, you carry more pressure than others, from parents and friends, from teachers and classmates, more from themselves, you have a strong self-control, quick thinking, strong will, positive and aspirant, have higher requirements for themselves, the results in the class is also good. But I would like to remind you that there are people outside the mountain. Many students are making use of holidays to improve their knowledge structure and comprehensive quality in order to keep improving. Strive hard, in order to be invincible in the exam war, come out on top. There is a good saying "you are not outstanding is not terrible, terrible is outstanding people more diligent than you!"

Baby, 2021 in our look forward, will be here soon, this year I is very important for you, perhaps you already had enough, maybe you have some hesitation, in fact, no matter how your past, these are not important, it is important for the rest of the 180 days, what should we do, I always believe that a pay a harvest, I also believe that you are can bear children, you are willing to pay a child, in June 2014, will make you satisfied!

Finally, the teacher wants to give you said: the child you will always be the teachers care, for your anxiety, worry about you, for your progress and very happy, but also for your slack and worried. Once, you put so trust in my eyes. Today, tomorrow, I will use all of their own knowledge, love and responsibility to protect your growth. Some people say that food is the most beautiful when you are hungry, health is the most beautiful when you are sick, friends are the most beautiful when you are helpless, and teachers are the most beautiful when you are confused. The teachers heart will always be open to you, a little lamp of hope for you. I am willing to fight together with you, riding horses to whip, sail to the other shore of victory!

Always love your friend: Liu Berkelium

In our life,have some animals,they are so cult and so ugly,but we must know

animals and humans are friends,we should like animals ,so i wnat to be a

volunteer to help them. I am so friendly and i love animals very much,i can do

more things and i do some good things,i give the money for save Chinas tigers

and so on.So i want to help animals,because i love them. Lets help animals just

help yourself ,lets to be a volunteer to help them now,so come on!

Dear Minister,

I am writing this letter to thank you for you warm hospitality accorded to

me and my delegation during our recent visit to your beautiful country. I would

also like to thank you for your interesting discussion with me which I have

found very informative and useful.

During the entire visit, my delegation and I were overwhelmed by the

enthusiasm expressed by your business representatives on cooperation with China.

I sincerely hope we could have more exchanges like this one when we would be

able to continue our interesting discussion on possible ways to expand our

bilateral ecomomic and trade relations and bring our business people

together.

I am lookingforward to your early visit to China when I will be able to pay

back some of the hospitality I received during my memorable stay in yur

beautiful country. With kind personal regards,

Faithfully yours,

(Signed)

dear head master of f & b department:

first of all, we thank you for the perfect service and providing delicious

foods, which give us a deep impression for everything you done. here, our

company specially thanks you and your team, and sends the best regards and the

most sincere gratitude to all of you. at the same time, we specially thank an

outstanding employee ------ __xwhom gave the most cooperation during the

events.

at the end, we sincerely thank for the all supports from you and your

colleagues.

millions of thanks!

your sincerely

beijing __x co., ltd.

date: __-__-____

Dear X:

We have not seen each other for a long time. I miss (think of) you very much. I wish (that) I had wings and could fly to your home. However, this is impossible!

Father (My father) has gone abroad of late. If I had had time then, I would have accompanied him. Only Mother (my mother) and I are at home now (at present). We are leading (living) a quiet and happy life. We look as if we were fairies. I hope (that) I can hear from you very often.

Sincerely yours.

I have a best friend. He is a lovely boy. He has short black hair ,big

black eyes and big ears. He has a bigmouth and a small nose. I think he is

handsome. And he is strong and quiet. He likes sports very much. After class, we

often play football, basket ball on the playground .He is a good player. He also

likes to study. English and math are his favourite subjects. He helps me a

lot.

Dear Miss Jiang,

How time flies! It has been a year since you went to teach in Sichuan. How are you getting on? I miss you so much that I often remember those days when we were together. Thank you for teaching me so well.

Now I’m interested in English more and more. In class, I listen to the teacher carefully and take active part in discussions in English. After class, I join in the English corner and watch English

programs to practice speaking and listening. All these help my English a lot. Now I have made great progress. I even won the first prize in last English competition.

I wonder how the children in Sichuan are studying and living now. Wish them a brighter and better future. Looking forward to meeting you soon.

Best wishes!

Yours sincerely

Meimei

Dear Sir,

I saw your advertisement for

Imagine my surprise when all I got in return was a box of matches! I could understand a mistake. I might even pardon a joke. But in this case, your advertisement is a deliberate lie since a friend of mine who also sent the coupon got the same result.

I think its a shame to promise an economical lighter when in fact you are not selling a lighter a1 all. Instead of saying it works quickly, you should admit that you are offering matches. And what about

I regard your advertisement as a serious deception and demand that you send me my money back immediately. Otherwise I will take active steps to make sure the Consumers Association hear about it.

Yours faithfully,

Peter Li

Dear friends:

If you can dream it, you can do it.——Walt Disney

It was a long four years. Even after I had actually graduated, the

nightmares began to haunt me, the university would call to say I hadn’t truly

graduated. There had been a mistake and there was just one more class I needed

to take. I was always so relieved to wake up and realize that it had only been a

bad dream. In reality, I had completed every course needed for my degree, and I

was a full-fledged college graduate!

Now, the rest of my life loomed ahead of me. Sometimes a bachelor’s degree

prepares you for a specific occupation——you train to be an accountant, you

graduate and get a position in an accounting firm. Often, however, your stint in

college only prepares you to make further decisions regarding your future.

You’re pretty sure what you don’t want to do!

During my senior year of college, I had toyed with the idea of changing my

major. At that point, I had finally discovered what captured my heart. But,

wanting to finally be finishing school was a stronger pull. So, I took a few

courses in physiology and exercise science, but not enough to receive a degree

in physical therapy. That would require advanced schooling, beyond my bachelor’s

degree——and I just wasn’tready to tackle that. Having completed my B.C. degree,

I didn’t have any intentions of furthering my education.

So, I did the safe thing and got an office job——the very thing I was sure

that I didn’t want to do! I detested the office policies, the suits I had to

wear and the downtown environment that I had to drive to every day. I knew this

was not where I belonged.

But god knew what path my career was to follow. A position opened up at the

most exclusive health club in our city, so I applied. This was my kind of

environment——an active, vibrant kind of place——completely at the opposite end of

the spectrum from the office environment where I found myself. The position

required that I work Saturday nights and Sunday mornings. Perfect, I thought! I

could keep my office job Monday through Friday and work at my dream job on the

weekends. This arrangement lasted several months until, eventually, a full-time

position opened up and I was able to resign from my office job.

Over the next few years, I worked my way up the leader, gaining experience

in several different departments. I found my niche as the director of member

services——catering to our clientele and providing them with numerous

cutting-edge programs. I would have stayed at that job forever——it seemed to be

the pinnacle of all my dreams fulfilled. Here were fellow employees who had a

passion for the same things that I did——health and fitness. Yet again, god had

other plans for my life.Within two years, a newer, bigger, better and more

state-of-the-art health club facility was built——just five miles down the road.

And, in turn, the owner lost many members to that club. And, in turn, the owner

lost thousands of dollars. One by one we were each laid off.

After trying unsuccessfully to land another similar position elsewhere, I

knew what I had to do. Go back to school!thanks!

Do you know what is the most precious and everlasting thing in the world?

Money? You may lose everything you have if you dont use money careful

enough.Youth?In ones long life youth is like a flash in the pan and no one in

the world has the secret to keep his youth forever. Beautiful look? Many people

pray that they can get hold of beauty, but it disappears far more quickly than

they can imagine. And when they are in real trouble beauty itself feels

helpless. A good job? As you grow older and your brain and hands cant work as

fast as before. It will become other peoples wealth.

Then what is the most precious and everlasting thing in the world?

When you are far away from your family and feel especially lonely, who will

you think of? When you stand on the crossroad in your life and dont know which

way to choose, who will you think of? When you encounter greater difficulties

than ever and need others encouragement, who will you think of? When you decide

to make the greatest decision in your favorite course, which shed cheerful tears

when see you get achievements? Whose wholehearted blessing will be always with

you no matter how far you will go?

Yes, its mother who you will always think of and its mothers love that

will be always be with you.

I once heard a moving story about a mother. Two children were drawn into

the flood and the situation was very dangerous. Their mother jumped into the

water without hesitation. But the mother couldnt swim at all. Jumping into the

water means she might lose her life. But at that time she had no time to think

about herself. She just wanted to try all means to save her children. Maybe her

courage touched the God. The miracle happened. She finally succeeded in saving

her both children. And she, of course, felt extremely exhausted.

My friends, mother’s love is the greatest love. Mother’s love is the safest

love. No matter you are happy or depressed, rich or poor, mother’s love will

always stay with you.

Dear Xiao Lin,

I have had a busy holiday these winter because I will take part in the entrance examination this September.

I almost buried myself in the books every day. I had to go over every required subject and did a lot of exercises. I worked very hard, more than 10 hours a day. When I was tired I watched TV for a while and listened to music, but I never went to the cinema or theater. I had to refuse several invitations from my relatives and classmates. I only called them to greet them on the eve of the Spring Festival. How I wish there were no examinations at all, but of course it is impossible.From joozone.com.

I will try my best to get better results and go to were no examinations at all, but of course it is impossible. I will try my best to get better results and go to Qing Hua University, which I have been longing for. How is your vacation? Best wishes to you and your family!

Yours

Wu Qi

新年假期，大家都是怎么度过的?

三五好友惬意下午茶?

在办公室加班赶总结?

与Ta继续腻歪撒狗粮?

在家带娃比上班还累?

......

有位朋友说，一不小心来到了小时候书上看到的科幻年代。我猛然一想，好像还真是这样，小时候怎么会想到可以出门不带钱，无论去哪儿靠一台手机就解决了呢?想来当下就是很快乐的时代了，充满未知的无限可能。

跨年晚会、跨年演讲......

2021年，给自己写封信，好好复盘一下过去的一年。

一、关键节点复盘

我们做年度总结经常会用到关键路径复盘，那么很重要的一点是找到路径上的关键节点进行复盘，比如年初立下了Flag：我要瘦下来。那么我会采取几个关键步骤去实现：

1、判断自身体质情况，关键节点是科学的记录身体基础和变化数据，设定瘦身目标。

2、进行饮食结构调整，关键节点是根据每日消耗进行食物摄入调整，就是每天吃啥。

3、增加专业健身计划，关键节点是在基础消耗上增加塑身燃脂训练，就是如何运动。

在这些路径上，假设某些节点不是这么设计，可能结果不一样，可以尝试做一下假设否定复盘，比如瘦身计划里选的不是跑步等运动，而是通过学舞蹈或瑜伽，也是可以达到瘦身效果的。当然这样的选择和决策相对简单，但是这种思考方式是可以尝试的。因为，当你对关键节点假设否定后，就会看到有更多可能性，会把对外界的依赖和关注转变到对自己的思维督促，然后就会想出更好的办法，完成思维锻炼到行动实践的闭环，思维力也是一种可以锻炼的能力，就像肌肉一样会越练越强大。

二、深挖问题归因

善用框架性思维，进行分类归纳总结。

1、分类。复盘一下过去一年最容易在哪些事情上不顺，然后分个类，就像帮孩子收拾整理玩具一样，分好类整理就完成了一半。比如约会时候总是迟到，其实都是对某件事情不够重视或太过重视。不够重视就容易忘记约定，没有预留足够的时间去准备;太过重视就会需要花很长时间梳妆打扮，反复纠结选哪条裙子。

2、深挖。杨宗纬有一首歌叫做《洋葱》，小时候有一系列书叫做《十万个为什么》，其实就是一层一层的剥开洋葱看到里面的那颗心，像小孩子一样地多问为什么，连环问下去，并且是问自己，到最后一定能找到那个最核心的原因，看到事物的本质。比如我们列了很多计划，却总是无法如期完成，很重要的原因就是动力不足，没有特别强的决心要去实现这个目标。我有一位朋友很多年前在互联网大厂上班有稳定的收入，小日子过得悠哉，当时她跟我说想学奢侈品管理和设计，我就鼓励她坚持自己的想法，后来几年不见，她真的去法国留学了，克服了留学转行和语言障碍的各种困难。所以很多事情，看似不可能，其实是没有化不可能为可能的决心和目标。

3、归纳总结。可以从以下一些维度进行归因总结：

(1) 横向思考。全局思考的思维习惯，就是预判大盘趋势的能力。

(2) 纵向思考。认知和思考深度，就是垂直专注的能力。

(3)

成长速度。我们经常能看到公司里有一些应届生，2年就成长为公司的中坚力量，很容易在人群中脱颖而出，这跟个人的学习能力、成长速度有很大关系。

三、如何行动

(1) 反思总结的不足，变成新年行动计划。比如纵向思考，深度分析发现问题本质不足，那么加强寻根问底的能力训练，并且快速实践修正。

(2)

开放心态，不为自己设限。我们很容易陷入自我保护的常态，习惯于已有的思维模式、生活方式。其实因为有各种可能性，才会有不同的人生体验和精彩。比如去做一两件之前不敢尝试的事情，研究一个新的职业方向的可能性，学一门语言，穿一些风格不同的衣服，换一头利落的短发等等。

(3)

不盲从，克服从众心理。我们一定要意识到自己的核心能力是什么，成长必须基于核心能力，然后意识到外界的变化，让适应变化的能力成长起来。撰写自己的人生脚本，不羡慕别人的生活，不盲从。我在大学毕业那年，宿舍所有同学考研的时候(都是学霸，最后都考上了，还有读到博士的)，我选择了先找工作就业，因为我认识到我们的专业应该先就业实践再继续深造。现在回头看，没有盲从去考研对我来说是对的。所以一定要排除外界的干扰，坚持适合自己的路，你才是为你自己负责的人。

(4)

做好每一个选择。还是那句老话，选择大于努力，就是选对赛道。尤其是针对重大决策，要缓做决策，多进行推演，用全局思考方式，把需要决策的内容扩大到一个大的时空周期内思考，而不是单点思考。尤其是应届生，毕业的三到五年尤为重要，选择一个上升趋势的行业，找到一位会欣赏认可和支持你的领导，会是一个比较好的开始。

(5) 预判行业大势。研究行业整体趋势和预估风口，结合自己优势找到机会点。

(6)

看清自己的状态。尤其是在一些大平台工作，需要认清是自己工作创造的价值还是平台自身的价值效应。很多在大平台待久的朋友容易看不清自己的状态，因为平台加持的光环效应太强，这时候需要静下心来，客观看待自己在平台优秀的业绩中，究竟贡献了多少价值，然后去找到自己真正发挥价值的那些能力，继续加强。比如，去年公司让你做一款游戏产品，是细分领域里最受欢迎的类型，这个方向是公司整体调研的决策，刚好抓住了风口，那么就要理清楚，在产品上你做了哪些是风口效应以外的，助力产品大火的工作，然后在自己所长上继续锻炼得更强大。

总之，我们一定要成为“自己”这家公司的CEO，为自己负责，找到自己的使命、愿景、价值观，最重要的是行动起来，因为迭代出真知!

2021，一起为自己代言